If you are having relationship problems and thinking about couples counselling, you may be able to relate to the following
When you get together with somebody special, you are in the “honeymoon” stage of the relationship. You don't see each other's imperfections and you fall for each other blindly and passionately.
As your relationship progresses, the next stage of “bonding” is developing, where you really get to know each other, warts and all. This is when it becomes apparent how compatible or incompatible the pair of you are.
Men and women are very different and everyone has their own unique compass of personal values, navigating you through your life. However, these values may conflict with your partner and can often become blocks.
The early relationship which was oiled by each others' generosity, can be replaced by resentments, which slowly chip away at the feelings of love and affection.
Good communication is the antidote to this, but somehow this may have broken down, or may never have been there to begin with. The 'marital fit' has changed.
Sometimes partners wound each other by their words or their actions. The frustration of not being heard by each other can lead to overt or passive hostility. Your relationship can turn into scoring points against each other, or conversely withdrawing, either emotionally or physically.
Counselling helps couples to understand each other's needs and find a way forward.
It is important that both partners are in agreement to come for couples counselling. However, if your partner doesn't want to come, but you would like to, I would be happy to see you on a one-to-one basis.
So, if you are having a relationship difficulty, please contact me and I will offer you an open, non-judgemental space for you to explore your problems in a safe and confidential environment.